Building Confidence and Self-Esteem
Children who were confident as kids may lose it as teens. Adolescence is often a time of self-doubt, poor body image, and insecurity for many. Good news: You can help improve low self-esteem in teenagers, which in turn will benefit them in many other ways. Confident teens can handle peer pressure, navigate dating relationships, make good decisions, and recover from setbacks. Here are a few ways to help build confidence and self-esteem in your teenagers:
- Show Unconditional Love
When we condition our love on our teen’s actions, we diminish the power of unconditional love and undermine the belief that they are worthy of our affection regardless of their behavior. Assure your adolescent that your affection for them is unconditional and unrelated to how well they achieve in school, the company they keep, or where they attend university. - Build Confidence at Home
A fixed attitude prevents many adolescents from expanding their sense of who they are and what they are capable of. Discuss how the human brain is continually developing and expanding. Write down some thoughts on areas in which you’ve observed your adolescent grow. This heart skills training can go a long way toward fostering self-esteem in your teen. - Make Room for Failure
A teen’s sense of self-worth can be directly tied to how their parents respond to failures and setbacks. Criticizing, overreacting, or ignoring these experiences conveys the wrong message. Instead, frame challenges as growth opportunities, a practice supported by heart skills training techniques. - Develop New Skills or Interests
Encourage your teen to see challenges as an opportunity to develop new skills. Whether it’s through the “After Program” curriculum or exploring creative outlets, fostering skill-building can boost self-esteem. - Don’t Let Them Give Up
Teach your teen the value of persistence. Programs like Project H.O.P.E. focus on developing a growth mindset, which helps teenagers build confidence even when faced with difficulties. - Give Reassurance
Teens often face difficulties transitioning to adulthood. Offer reassurance that prioritizing themselves—such as choosing a positive activity over toxic friendships—is a bold and admirable step. - Create a Safe Space
Provide your teen with an environment where they can express themselves without judgment. Whether it’s about friendships, academics, or their personal goals, creating a space for open dialogue is invaluable. - Encourage Self-Compassion
Practicing self-compassion helps teens counter negative self-perceptions. Encourage them to write positive affirmations, engage in mindfulness, or reflect on what they've learned through programs like Marriage Matters. - Explore Different Activities or Interests
Extracurricular involvement promotes confidence. For example, being part of a theater club or sports team can offer a sense of belonging. Activities such as Marriage Program workshops also provide valuable life skills. - Listen
Empathy builds self-worth. As a parent, focus on understanding your teen rather than jumping to conclusions. Listening attentively allows them to feel validated and supported. - Model Confidence
Your teen watches how you handle challenges. Demonstrate a confident attitude and share experiences that helped you grow. As a member of the board of their development, your actions inspire them to cultivate their own confidence.
Tips to Prepare for School
To ensure a smooth back-to-school transition, consider these strategies:
- Prepare Teens for School
Begin back-to-school preparation with structured routines. For example, ensure your teen gets enough sleep, a nutritious breakfast, and limited screen time. - Help Them Become More Organized
Organizational skills are foundational for long-term success. Encourage your teen to use planners or apps to manage their schedules and responsibilities effectively. - Prepare Them for Academic Success
Assist with study schedules and homework management. This practice, combined with heart skills training, equips teens to handle increasing academic demands. - Promote Extracurricular Activities
Participation in activities like art, sports, or clubs fosters teamwork and a sense of belonging, essential components of self-confidence.
Be Strong International: Empowering Teens
Organizations like Be Strong International specialize in empowering teens through programs designed to support their personal growth and self-confidence.
- About Our Partners
Be Strong International collaborates with schools, churches, and community groups to create holistic programs that serve teens and their families. - Project H.O.P.E.
This program addresses essential topics such as relationships, careers, and finances, equipping teens to make informed decisions. Workshops are interactive and evidence-based, fostering empowerment. - After Program Club
Focused on middle school students, this club provides holistic enrichment, including academic support, arts, and emotional growth activities, building on heart skills principles. - Girls Empowerment Mastery Sessions (GEMS)
This initiative helps girls discover their voice through confidence-building workshops. Addressing the common "loss of voice" in adolescence, it equips them with tools for self-expression.
For more information on programs like Marriage Matters or how to join our Board of Directors initiatives, visit our Contact Us page or write to us via the chat box on the bottom right corner of our website.
Get Ready to Empower Your Teen
With these actionable tips and programs from Be Strong International, your teen can embark on a journey of self-confidence, resilience, and success. Take the first step today!